Landslide by Tiny Habits

I just listened to Landslide by Tiny Habits (originally Fleetwood Mac), and it compelled me to write another blog entry...

“I took my love and I took it down”

Morning of January 1, New Year, I finally decided to cut the chase with the guy that I like and been in contact with since last summer. I like him so much, though it only took me less than a year of getting to know him. He said he wanted to pursue me even though we were physically distant from each other (we met online). I allowed him. It didn’t work on my end. He couldn’t grasp the idea of actually making time and have intentional, genuine conversations with me. I know myself enough to ask that from him.

I like him so much, but I had to let go of him––of the fact that we're not gonna work.

I’m in the middle of participating in our local church’s annual prayer, fasting, and consecration, day 4 to be exact. Before I started reading the supplemental booklet, I grabbed my old devo journal and read my list of faith goals last 2024. One of the goals I wrote was to put healthy boundaries with men because I easily get attached with someone with high EQ - obviously the reason why I like him.

“I took my love and I took it down”

I took the feelings, but now I had to take it down.

I had to finally draw the line. I like him so much but I don’t think I deserve the little time he could only offer me. I’m not one to ask so much attention from anyone but being treated the bare minimum by a guy who’s trying to win my heart is the least I could imagine receiving. It just doesn't work that way.

It was months of liking him, but also months of being confused of what he wants for a relationship.

While I already know what I want, I don’t know if he knows he needs to commit to the reality of our situation, even the future relationship that we were supposed to commit.

I am for spending quality time. My top love language is quality time. It doesn’t matter if I have to run errands with you. Or work together with you without necessarily talking to you. I love long, and deep, conversations. I appreciate receiving updates of how your day went, but I want to know your perception and perpsective of things. I don’t care if we disagree at some point, I’m just interested with what goes on in your mind. If you can’t do that, then what’s the point of getting to know each other? What’s one hour (or less!) of talking and learning our likes and dislikes? If you don’t appreciate that, let’s cut the chase. Let’s not stir up each other’s emotions.

It’s already 2025, I need to embrace what healthy boundaries should be. I need to protect my heart and wait on the Lord. I don’t want to allow my emotions get the hold of myself anymore. Let that be my guide when meeting people.

xx

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